Ziay!

ayz · 10-07-2009, 08:19 AM

...want to depend on you in the future? Don't feel any support from parents, especially mentally, since very young; Work very hard for the past 20 years and finally has a family but still do not have a job. Parents were able to support themselves in China but they give up and come to US and insist on staying without listening to our opinion. If they are in China, I can support them easily, especially after I get a job. But in US, they are very very heavy burden to me, most importantly, they still don't show support in my life, they don't love me and my baby as most parents/grandparents do.

Danielle · 10-07-2009, 08:40 AM

you are an adult now. explain to them exactly what you said to us. tell them you are tryin to get to a certain place in your life and they would be a burden to you. you cannot support them at this time.

mysweetangel · 10-07-2009, 08:40 AM

since they are your parents, you have an oligation to care for them not necessarily support in the sense of 24/7 stand-by with them. as their children, it is only right to give them the care they need though sometimes things seems to be going the other way. when they brought us into this world, this is the only way we can thank them--that is, by giving them the care they need when they need it most. try to heartily tell them the situation and if you failed then continue to do so as a good child.god will reward you for your goodness.

howlincoyote · 10-07-2009, 08:42 AM

I feel for you I understand the pressure parents can put on a child. I am not sure why you aren't working, how have you survived, let alone you have a child.
Unfortunately you will have to be disrespectful towards your parents, just as they have to you, but you have to take care of the child first (you don't mention the child's mother) Send your parents down to the local welfare office, they will get the idea...
I honestly don't know. What I do know is that this is YOUR life and you have to take control. If not for your sake then your childs. It is time to quit relying on your parents for support or any kind that obviously is not going to happen. It is sad, but way of life for many.
Best of luck to you and yours

10-07-2009, 08:19 AM	#1
ayz Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	What wou you do if your parents don't support you much in your life but... ...want to depend on you in the future? Don't feel any support from parents, especially mentally, since very young; Work very hard for the past 20 years and finally has a family but still do not have a job. Parents were able to support themselves in China but they give up and come to US and insist on staying without listening to our opinion. If they are in China, I can support them easily, especially after I get a job. But in US, they are very very heavy burden to me, most importantly, they still don't show support in my life, they don't love me and my baby as most parents/grandparents do.

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10-07-2009, 08:40 AM	#2
Danielle Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	you are an adult now. explain to them exactly what you said to us. tell them you are tryin to get to a certain place in your life and they would be a burden to you. you cannot support them at this time.

10-07-2009, 08:40 AM	#3
mysweetangel Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	since they are your parents, you have an oligation to care for them not necessarily support in the sense of 24/7 stand-by with them. as their children, it is only right to give them the care they need though sometimes things seems to be going the other way. when they brought us into this world, this is the only way we can thank them--that is, by giving them the care they need when they need it most. try to heartily tell them the situation and if you failed then continue to do so as a good child.god will reward you for your goodness.

10-07-2009, 08:42 AM	#4
howlincoyote Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 7	I feel for you I understand the pressure parents can put on a child. I am not sure why you aren't working, how have you survived, let alone you have a child. Unfortunately you will have to be disrespectful towards your parents, just as they have to you, but you have to take care of the child first (you don't mention the child's mother) Send your parents down to the local welfare office, they will get the idea... I honestly don't know. What I do know is that this is YOUR life and you have to take control. If not for your sake then your childs. It is time to quit relying on your parents for support or any kind that obviously is not going to happen. It is sad, but way of life for many. Best of luck to you and yours

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What wou you do if your parents don't support you much in your life but...

What wou you do if your parents don't support you much in your life but...