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mystified · 10-07-2009, 02:01 AM

kids? My daughter recently got married and is pregnant. Am I still needed in her life? We have a pretty close relationship, but I can't help but feel as if I'm going to be replaced by the husband and kid. Do you guys, or girls, who are married with kids, still love and need your parents? Do you still want them or enjoy having them in your life? I'm her father by the way.

blackngoldfan#1 · 10-07-2009, 02:24 AM

you will always be needed in her life. now that she's pregnant your daughter will need you more now than ever. once she becomes a mom, she will come to you often for your advice and your opinion. as adults, we tend to become friends with our parents. i, along with my sister, talk to my parents everyday. and to think that when i was a teenager i didn't even like my parents!

Roscoe0150 · 10-07-2009, 02:39 AM

What do you feel about your parents?If they're in your life are you glad.If they're not for some reason,do you wish they were.Talk to your daughter as an adult and let her set the tone of the relationship.

WickedMagnet · 10-07-2009, 02:56 AM

Dear Somebody-Else's-Dad,

Even at 20-something, having been married, separated, and becoming a mother myself.... I would still invite my mother to do this or that with me, and be extremely annoyed when she would invite HER husband along.
We need our parents. Maybe we're not in your faces all the time, and certainly don't want you in ours, but there is a bond, a love, and respect that become present between children and parents that cannot, and will not, be broken simply because we have new people in our life, or "families of our own."
Be there for her. Don't be so down on yourself, or you'll inevitably withdraw and make it worse than it has to be - on BOTH of you. Take those other people and make them YOUR family too.
They are, are they not? Your daughter is part of you, just as her baby is part of her, which makes that baby also part of you.
Get over it. You're being completely silly.

Love,
Someone-Else's-Daughter

Kristy · 10-07-2009, 02:56 AM

Man, I wouldn't know what to do without my parents. I'm away and married, but I still need them around. I think that's the curse of being a father though, or at least with my father as well, that he just doesn't feel as needed as he really is. Even if you can't do anything really tangible for her, you're still her dad, and that's more to her than her husband or child (even though it may seem s little unbalanced right now).

kissmywinnie · 10-07-2009, 03:00 AM

Being 31 I still need my father, even when I was married. Family is the most important thing in life, even if it's your daughters family and your family. don't think of it as if your going to be replaced think of it as a whole new family that is part of your family. Your daughter could never replace you, she's daddy's little girl and no matter how old she gets she will always think that. I do still to this day. It's hard to let go of your kids, watch them grow into the adults that you hoped they would be. Just remember she loves and she could never replace you!!!!!

satynmyst · 10-07-2009, 03:12 AM

I don't think we ever stop needing our parents' love and support. I'm an adult child, and even though I'm not married or don't have kids, I couldn't imagine not wanting the support of my parents. I would think when your daughter got married, and now is having a child this would be the time when she would need your love and support the most. Just make sure she knows you are available to her when she needs you.

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Do adults still need their parents love and support once they're married and have

Do adults still need their parents love and support once they're married and have

10-07-2009, 02:01 AM	#1
mystified Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	Do adults still need their parents love and support once they're married and have kids? My daughter recently got married and is pregnant. Am I still needed in her life? We have a pretty close relationship, but I can't help but feel as if I'm going to be replaced by the husband and kid. Do you guys, or girls, who are married with kids, still love and need your parents? Do you still want them or enjoy having them in your life? I'm her father by the way.

10-07-2009, 02:24 AM	#2
blackngoldfan#1 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 4	you will always be needed in her life. now that she's pregnant your daughter will need you more now than ever. once she becomes a mom, she will come to you often for your advice and your opinion. as adults, we tend to become friends with our parents. i, along with my sister, talk to my parents everyday. and to think that when i was a teenager i didn't even like my parents!

10-07-2009, 02:39 AM	#3
Roscoe0150 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 8	What do you feel about your parents?If they're in your life are you glad.If they're not for some reason,do you wish they were.Talk to your daughter as an adult and let her set the tone of the relationship.

10-07-2009, 02:56 AM	#4
WickedMagnet Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	Dear Somebody-Else's-Dad, Even at 20-something, having been married, separated, and becoming a mother myself.... I would still invite my mother to do this or that with me, and be extremely annoyed when she would invite HER husband along. We need our parents. Maybe we're not in your faces all the time, and certainly don't want you in ours, but there is a bond, a love, and respect that become present between children and parents that cannot, and will not, be broken simply because we have new people in our life, or "families of our own." Be there for her. Don't be so down on yourself, or you'll inevitably withdraw and make it worse than it has to be - on BOTH of you. Take those other people and make them YOUR family too. They are, are they not? Your daughter is part of you, just as her baby is part of her, which makes that baby also part of you. Get over it. You're being completely silly. Love, Someone-Else's-Daughter

10-07-2009, 02:56 AM	#5
Kristy Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 2	Man, I wouldn't know what to do without my parents. I'm away and married, but I still need them around. I think that's the curse of being a father though, or at least with my father as well, that he just doesn't feel as needed as he really is. Even if you can't do anything really tangible for her, you're still her dad, and that's more to her than her husband or child (even though it may seem s little unbalanced right now).

10-07-2009, 03:00 AM	#6
kissmywinnie Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	Being 31 I still need my father, even when I was married. Family is the most important thing in life, even if it's your daughters family and your family. don't think of it as if your going to be replaced think of it as a whole new family that is part of your family. Your daughter could never replace you, she's daddy's little girl and no matter how old she gets she will always think that. I do still to this day. It's hard to let go of your kids, watch them grow into the adults that you hoped they would be. Just remember she loves and she could never replace you!!!!!

10-07-2009, 03:12 AM	#7
satynmyst Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1	I don't think we ever stop needing our parents' love and support. I'm an adult child, and even though I'm not married or don't have kids, I couldn't imagine not wanting the support of my parents. I would think when your daughter got married, and now is having a child this would be the time when she would need your love and support the most. Just make sure she knows you are available to her when she needs you.