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freeeeedommmm

Explain the hardships and the joys of single parenting. What should I expect out of my future former spouse? He is of the bullying, mentally abusive breed to both the kids and I.

purplewings123

It really depends on whether you have a helpful, concerned family around and some close friendships.

It's also a consideration if you have work skills or not. Your standard of living usually goes down with a divorce so you may need to take some classes and find a career that will interest and support you and your children.

It can be an exhilerating thing to walk out of an abusive marriage and go out on your own without fear. Making preparations before leaving will be a good thing in the long run.

Perhaps, you would want to ask him to visit a marriage counselor with you a few times before deciding absolutely. Of course it's best for children to grow up with their own parents - but if he won't try to change and continues to be abusive, you must go.

For the unprepared and those without family ties, it can be extremely hard. It's difficult to make ends meet on low wages. It's difficult to have to pay a babysitter every time you go anyplace...and it's lonely at times.

You can weigh out the pros and cons for yourself but please do not stay in a marriage where you are abused.

I wish you the best of luck.

henvimy

life wont be easy,but if he is a bully you do need to get away from him for your sake and the children. there is a lot of help for the children especially if you are low income, you just have to be determined to find the help you need.

mike

My wife left me with a 9 month old and a two year old. I started out very rough, not knowing what to do. But now, my two girls and I lead a wonderful life full of love and wonder. I love being a single parent. It allows me a chance to bond with them. We are the 3 muskateers!