Ziay!

Cassie

haunted by it. Is there anyway to let it go It's causing me problems, like being unable to talk to my boyfriend. I've been pretty much abused my whole life. And I just can't deal with it anymore? Is there anyway to make the pain stop

my5an7hr0p

you've been abused all of your life and you went on to be in an abusive relationship. It could be that you're stuck in a cycle with this. The best way to get out of this cycle and heal is to become informed and make sure you don't end up in another abusive realtionship. This can be hard since this is the only way you know how to be treated. Perhaps you should be alone for a while to work on yourself. Perhaps some counseling would help. See about support groups in your area or parhaps a post-traumatic-stress-syndrome workshop. First make contact with a counselor or therapist and see if they can refer you to something suitable. Most importantly: Always remember that there is nothing wrong with you and you in no way deserve this kind of treatment.

morwenna

Have you tried counselling? It might seem quite daunting first of all, but it sounds like talking to someone impartial could help. The pain will stop when you learn to recognise that you have been through a ordeal and you need to accept some form of help. It's good that you are in another relationship; if your boyfriend is supportive and understands that you need time to get over what has happened.
If you find yourself becoming anxious or upset, you could try Bach Flower Remedies (the Rescue Remedy is good), they help relieve a lot of ailments, such as insomnia etc. Most of all, recognising that there is a problem is half way to solving it. Talk to people that you trust and can confide in; and if things don't get easier, seriously consider counselling as a means to get over things. Good luck!!