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johnson4730

doesnt want to addess it. The guy has a bad problem with booze, however the family is too blind to see that he has a problem. He doesnt think he has a problem, and will not go to AA. His wife considers herself a smart person but instead keeps buying beer for him so he will not be mad. What to do?

Tre Dub

Moderation is the key to anything we consume. Including things that are not food and drink. Show him the benefits to alcohol, like thinning the blood and reducing the risk of heart attacks.(this is in moderation.) Then show him the problems associated with abuse of it. Maybe he can have his beer or wine or spirits if it's with food or in controlled moderation. If he's drinking to the point of puking or physically abusing his wife or kids, then I would tell him how angry you are for the abuse and help him find his limit. He and his wife can agree on a limit. It's o.k. to get technical with this. For instance, a bottle is 12 oz. and most guys are happy with one 40. oz. If his critical point is , let's say, 80 oz.(the point he gets sick or violent), then make his limit 60 or 48.oz. You may not be able to stop him totally, that's unrealistic. What you can do is compromise and say "We agreed on 60 Oz. per day and if you go over that we're through. I know you are not the wife, but you can relay this to her. Alcohol in moderation can save your life with regards to a high fat diet and heart disease. Tell her to find an agreeable limit, this way she can still bring it home and he can be both satisfied and healthy.