Ziay!

rockinpindc · 06-12-2008, 12:47 AM

I have been chatting with other women online just friendly chat and im in a long term relationship am i in the wrong about doing this
I only talk to the other women at work to pass the time and dont really talk to my g/f about it but its not that im trying to hide the fact that i talk to them

JayNick · 06-12-2008, 01:01 AM

You should not do anything in a relationship that you wouldn't do with your partner standing next to you. You should never have to hide anything or be ashamed of anything.

Mad_Goldfish · 06-12-2008, 01:01 AM

Do you talk to other women offline? If it's just talking, that's fine, but you might want to reassure your girlfriend if she thinks you're up to more than that. If you are up to more than that, you'd better be prepared to take responsibility for it.

Be honest with your girlfriend. That's the best way.

marquettemagic07 · 06-12-2008, 01:06 AM

no you should not thats wrong if you love the preson you are with then you should not even think about a other girl or guy

moore850 · 06-12-2008, 01:08 AM

If you're friends with them in a strictly platonic sense and they likewise, then you're ok. It's not unethical to have an opposite sex friend. However, the online environment can make it harder to determine the motives of the women you are chatting with. I would assume that you may be treading on some unsafe ground, because if any of them know your significant other, they may be enticed to blackmail you using emails/IMs that could be misinterpreted by your s/o.

midnightprophet · 06-12-2008, 01:13 AM

well, NO, you are not wrong. but women see it different than us men. So either dont do it or dont let her know you are doing it, if she is freakin out about it, then that should give you an indication of how she will act once you are married. you can also think about how you would feel if she were talking with men online. the women you are talking to are prob 300pds and ugly anyway, so i dont see why she is sweating it, she must not feel that you love her enough. i just wouldnt do it myself though, but is it wrong: in this day and age, hell no

cindy23fla · 06-12-2008, 01:14 AM

ya baby...it's hot!!!

tinytike79 · 06-12-2008, 01:44 AM

It would be acceptable if you were open with your significant other about the conversations and she did not express discomfort with the situation...IF it is, as you say, just friendly chatter. However, if I were in her position, I might ask why you need to go out of your way to talk to virtual strangers. Is there some void this SO is not filling?

HighNMighty · 06-12-2008, 02:09 AM

If you are unhappy with our long-term relationship, you have to come to terms with that. If you honestly believe your chat is only "friendly" then it shouldn't be an issue. You may also want to reflect on whether you've been hiding this behavior or not. This might involve other trust issues between you and your partner.

curiousgeorge · 06-12-2008, 03:18 AM

not if you don't want her to be pissed!

06-12-2008, 12:47 AM	#1
rockinpindc Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	should you talk to other women online if your in a long trem relationship? I have been chatting with other women online just friendly chat and im in a long term relationship am i in the wrong about doing this I only talk to the other women at work to pass the time and dont really talk to my g/f about it but its not that im trying to hide the fact that i talk to them

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06-12-2008, 01:01 AM	#2
JayNick Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 7	You should not do anything in a relationship that you wouldn't do with your partner standing next to you. You should never have to hide anything or be ashamed of anything.

06-12-2008, 01:01 AM	#3
Mad_Goldfish Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	Do you talk to other women offline? If it's just talking, that's fine, but you might want to reassure your girlfriend if she thinks you're up to more than that. If you are up to more than that, you'd better be prepared to take responsibility for it. Be honest with your girlfriend. That's the best way.

06-12-2008, 01:06 AM	#4
marquettemagic07 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1	no you should not thats wrong if you love the preson you are with then you should not even think about a other girl or guy

06-12-2008, 01:08 AM	#5
moore850 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 10	If you're friends with them in a strictly platonic sense and they likewise, then you're ok. It's not unethical to have an opposite sex friend. However, the online environment can make it harder to determine the motives of the women you are chatting with. I would assume that you may be treading on some unsafe ground, because if any of them know your significant other, they may be enticed to blackmail you using emails/IMs that could be misinterpreted by your s/o.

06-12-2008, 01:13 AM	#6
midnightprophet Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 6	well, NO, you are not wrong. but women see it different than us men. So either dont do it or dont let her know you are doing it, if she is freakin out about it, then that should give you an indication of how she will act once you are married. you can also think about how you would feel if she were talking with men online. the women you are talking to are prob 300pds and ugly anyway, so i dont see why she is sweating it, she must not feel that you love her enough. i just wouldnt do it myself though, but is it wrong: in this day and age, hell no

06-12-2008, 01:14 AM	#7
cindy23fla Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	ya baby...it's hot!!!

06-12-2008, 01:44 AM	#8
tinytike79 Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1	It would be acceptable if you were open with your significant other about the conversations and she did not express discomfort with the situation...IF it is, as you say, just friendly chatter. However, if I were in her position, I might ask why you need to go out of your way to talk to virtual strangers. Is there some void this SO is not filling?

06-12-2008, 02:09 AM	#9
HighNMighty Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	If you are unhappy with our long-term relationship, you have to come to terms with that. If you honestly believe your chat is only "friendly" then it shouldn't be an issue. You may also want to reflect on whether you've been hiding this behavior or not. This might involve other trust issues between you and your partner.

06-12-2008, 03:18 AM	#10
curiousgeorge Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3	not if you don't want her to be pissed!

Ziay!

should you talk to other women online if your in a long trem relationship?

should you talk to other women online if your in a long trem relationship?